You may have wondered where I have been for the last
couple of weeks. As I have gotten older,
I have become more and more involved in things I wanted to do when I was
younger but I didn't have the time, or I didn't have the skills, or I didn't have the money, or family got in the way.
All of that is gone…well…I still don’t have any money…but I do have the
time and the inclination. What I don’t
have is the strength. Like I say…none of
us is 20 anymore. And I get tired!!!!
Those who know me know I tend to overcompensate. It’s okay most of the
time, but from time to time all the work convergences and then I am kaput. Add to the mix my normal
business routine, I am overwrought!!! But
at age 63, I am holding my own. It’s all
about turning pages. Turning the page
from what you have to do to what you want to do.
Much of my practice is in elder law. I don’t do the complicated stuff, but I know
the basics. You learn real fast what
happens as you get older. Some…a very
few…live well into their nineties. My
uncle will turn 100 this August and he didn't turn his pages until his wife and
daughter passed away. He made the
most of the few years he had left. He
recently entered into a nursing home.
But up until last November he wanted his scotch and his steak. He loved to shop. He loved to go to dinner.
Others aren't as lucky as my uncle. Some people say death is the great
equalizer. They are wrong; it’s nursing
homes. You can have $300 million or
$30.00. You will be treated the same.
So, the lesson is do what you want now. I have always liked arts and culture so I
have chosen to become heavily involved.
It’s a fascinating world of beautiful venues and beautiful music and
wonderful plays and art…tempered by money, politics, and interesting
people who run these organizations. All
of them are originals, some more than others. They are all a breed unto themselves. And all of them are great and I have been privileged to know and to work with them. Many of them are my age filling the gaps in their
lives, selflessly serving the public good by offering beauty in an often times ugly
world. Some are like me finding areas
where they can excel. "Arts and culture" is an area where my legal and political and business abilities are propelling me to
do things I could only dream of when I was younger…fearlessly hiring lobbyists…charging
to Columbus to meet with high ranking politicos….meeting the crème de la crème in
a world of culture I had only read about…meeting LIBERALS and finding we have
much more in common than an old conservative like me would care to admit.
I actually got to sit in on a meeting of one of the most
liberal foundations in the state. Here’s
what I found out. Just as in the private
sector, the folks who run the foundations expect results. Maybe they measure the results in something
different than profit or business success, but they have their goals and ways
to measure if they are attained. Each of
these organizations compete for money, then compete for success. Fascinating.
Turning pages means change. It is a humbling experience starting a new
life in a new area. But at my age, the
secret is not to care about what others think, or the mistakes you might
make. Who gives a damn if people think
you are nuts. You probably are!!! And any mistake can be fixed. 200 years from now it won’t make any
difference. You will be lucky if there is someone to cut the grass on your grave.
I have spent the last several weeks turning pages. Hopefully things will start to slow down
again. Then I can write and reflect…and
I don’t care what anybody thinks!!!